Why I Don’t Like Homeschooling

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Hey.  It’s quite the thing nowadays.  Homeschooling.  Everyone’s doing it.  They’re telling you why they love it.  Why it’s right for them.  But what about the flip side?

We love homeschooling!  We think it’s the tops!  Every good thing, though, has its drawbacks.  So to be fair, here are some of its challenging aspects.

Title One, Which Draws Interest: Why I Don’t Like Homeschooling.
Title Two, Which I Prefer:  What Makes Homeschooling a Great, Fun Challenge?

Lack of alone time.  “I’m sorry, brain, did you say something?”  There’s just about no such thing as alone time.  On the spectrum, I require high levels of alone time (in my house), and this has been my biggest challenge!  A helpful spouse and skillful use of a babysitter has helped ease the pain.

Messy house.  Entropy at its finest.  Oh, the clutter.  Glitter.  Glue.  Shoes.  Dishes.  Laundry.  Spills.  Another spill. 

Three meals a day.  More dishes.  “I know it’s 2 o’clock, but come on, can’t we just get through history and poetry BEFORE I make lunch?”

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If you can deal with sassy, you’re 75% there!

Dealing with sassy.  “‘Don’t-ch-you’ roll your eyes at me…”  When my first instinct is to yell, fuss, and holler, my newly trained response has become to bite my tongue ’til it bleeds and speak softly with a voice dripping sweet tones of kindness.  It works.  My tongue is so swollen I can’t say anything I’ll regret.

Rainy days.  Indoor recess.

Juggling different age-levels of learning.  “How about some Mickey Mouse Clubhouse?”  I’d say my youngest child is the rate-limiting factor in progression of our school day.  Sometimes it’s difficult to keep the older ones focused with little interruptions and disturbances.

Also, we try to do the same subjects at the same time for each child, but this gets challenging for math, grammar, phonics, and spelling due to age differences.  So I’m learning flexibility.

Flexibility.  Just call  me a wet noodle.  It is no longer, “My way or the highway.”  It’s all about finding a, maybe creative, way to get needed tasks, living, and learning accomplished.  Sadly, I still prefer it my way.

Wondering if “I’m doing it right.”    Most of the time a homeschooling parent knows everything is going fine, but sometimes doubt creeps in.  Especially when you talk to another homeschooling parent or see a friend’s extra-bright school kid.  “Your kid does what/reads what/plays what/memorizes what/writes how? –Oh, well, that’s great.”  Shoot, I’d better get on the ball!

"Hey--you!  I didn't graduate from Indiana University with my 'Mrs.', don't you know."

“Hey–you! I didn’t graduate from Indiana University with an ‘MRS’, you know.”

Losing my identity to the world.  Nobody knows what you used to do. Nobody cares where you went to college or what you majored or mastered or doctorated in.  You are a stay-at home parent.  H-o-m-e-m-a-k-e-r.  Heck, your kids don’t even know or care.  Once, my husband said to my kids, “Your mom’s a doctor.”  “Nuh-uuuh.  She’s mommy.”  And that, folks, is why I do this.  That is one heck of a compliment.

It’s all me.  School doesn’t happen without me.  My devoted presence allows school to be conducted in about a quarter of the time.  If I manage a phone call, the plumber’s visit, or try to clean the kitchen, pretty much school stops.  (Probably because I’m not doing it right.)  It’s a bit annoying that I can’t get anything done sometimes without falling behind in school! (Flexibility.  Yuck.)

Bad days.  Scrap days.  The days you throw up your hands and say, “Get outta’ here.  Go.  Go play.”

My kids.  Oops.  Slip.  I guess homeschooling wouldn’t be an option without my kids.  They’re the best.  But I won’t lie.  Homeschooling (and parenting) is a lot of work and a great challenge.  It requires a lot of time and energy and creates so much worry, frustration, and fear. (Wish they’d say that when they show all those stupid “baby bumps” in People magazine.) But spontaneous hugs and “I love yous” as the kids speed through the living room on the way outside –well, I can’t even explain what that’s worth.

“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.”  Neil Postman (NOT John Whitehead)

All the best to you today.  Hope maybe you found something useful here.  Terri

You may (or may not) be interested in the following posts:

Why We Homeschool

Parenting Mission Statement

I Could Never Homeschool My Kids

15 thoughts on “Why I Don’t Like Homeschooling

  1. Valerie

    Well said! I love how you wrote this, as truthfully and happily as you could. There are times I am feeling less than enthusiastic about homeschooling, and yet all the benefits are what push me through. It’s nice to know I am not the only one who struggles with the day to day stuff, like Indoor recess (UGH).
    We homeschool during the summer (except for July) because the kids can’t go out to play anyway with the heat, so they need stuff to do! July is for them to have a break and me to have a month to finish planning for next year. 😉
    Have a great weekend! 🙂

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    1. thehomeschoolingdoctor Post author

      Thank you for your comment! We used to live in South Carolina, and your comment brought back humid, stifling memories! Oh, the heat! The humid heat. The heat. Lest I forget. Thanks for reminding me. I hope you have a great weekend, too! By the way, I’ve been wanting to let you know, too, that I am grateful for your site (www.atlantamomofthree.wordpress.com) and although I don’t “know” you in the true sense, you have made a difference here!

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  2. IrishMum

    Hehehe, great post! It does get easier. I have it pretty cushy now. My boys do all the housework, a lot of the cooking, and the older two are very independent with their school work. Hang in there!!
    LOL @ Wicked Sammy!

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    1. thehomeschoolingdoctor Post author

      That is a lot for me to look forward to! I must not be doing it right (right?)–I don’t think we’ll ever get there! Thanks for the reassurance. I’m loving it, even if it’s stuck this way! But, obviously, I managed a blog, so it’s getting WAY easier. Oh yeah–and I’m glad somebody could laugh at Wicked Sammy! Have a great weekend!

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    1. thehomeschoolingdoctor Post author

      I’m glad you agree! Sometimes when my husband comes home, I go over the day and wonder what we accomplished! It doesn’t “look” like much, but it felt like much! All the best to you and your family!

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  3. Nancy

    Alright you closet blogger! I’m glad you told me…finally! This is the first post I read and I have to say—Great Job Terri! Homeschooling is NOT the easy road to take but in the end it will be the best road! I can’t wait to look over the rest of your blog. You amaze and inspire me!

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    1. thehomeschoolingdoctor Post author

      Thank you, Nancy! Welcome to this humble blog. Your comments encourage me! You were in the right place at the right time to keep me on my health journey, that’s for sure. And our conversations always stimulate my curiosity to know more. Thank you for all! Here’s to good nutrition and good training for our children! And spreading the word in our ways!

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  4. MJ

    I’m so happy to have found your blog. I feel like we have SO MUCH in common (but I don’t have a medical degree 😉 ) A friend sent me to you because of your probiotics post and I was very pleasantly surprised to find so much more here. Thank you for sharing your talents with us!

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    1. thehomeschoolingdoctor Post author

      Dear MJ, Thank you for taking the time to comment as I know it’s not a simple process (aka, a pain in the butt)! Homeschooling is great! And learning about all this alternative health/nutrition stuff–well—can I go bury my head in the sand? Lots to learn, eh, in all things? I’m glad somebody found something I wrote helpful/humorous/insightful/motivating/self-relating. Hope life is good there where you are! Warm wishes, Terri

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